Two weeks ago I started a series on The Three Cs of Feeling Empowered. I planned to write about confidence first because I feel that confidence is so fundamental to empowerment but it occurred to me that before you can develop the confidence to take charge you first must overcome your fear. Fear? Fear of what, you might ask.
- Disappointing people
- Of what others might think
- That you are not worthy
- Being out of your comfort zone
- Physical threats
Need I go on?
Every journey takes courage. But I thought we were talking about empowerment. We are, however, empowerment cannot be attained instantaneously. There are no magic pills or incantations to developing self-empowerment. Becoming empowered is a journey of self-discovery on the road to self-love.
To begin the journey, one must be courageous. You have it in you, you simply have to exercise that courage muscle a bit.
Courage gets easier with practice. The more you practice overcoming your fears, the easier it gets to make the courageous choice when the time comes.
As Mark Twain (and so many others) said, courage is not the absence of fear, it is forging ahead in spite of your fear. We all are afraid at different times in our life, it is part of the human condition. However, we all get to choose, give permission to our fears to keep our lives small and helpless or take charge of our life and direct our own path.
Brene Brown speaks a lot about shame based social fear and the power that comes from recognizing the power of sharing our vulnerability.
The first step toward self-empowerment is making the decision to have courage, despite what others might say, despite whether you think you have it in you to succeed (you do), despite that there will be times when you will feel very uncomfortable. Standing up to fear is the best way to honor yourself.
You are worth it.
What have been some of your toughest fears and how have you or are you overcoming them?