The Next Phase of Friendship

From The Princess Bride: “Mawwage. Mawwage is what bwings us togeva today. Mawwage, that bwessed arrangement; that dweam wivin a dweam.”princess_bride_movie

Funny movie! One that my kids could probably recite word for word because they watched it so many times when they were young. But this post isn’t about the movie.

Over the weekend, I had the pleasure of attending the wedding of a friend’s daughter. It was a lovely event; filled with tears of joy for the young couple, sighs of relief that all the planning and arranging was finally coming to fruition, good food, dancing, and laughter.

I have to admit though, that I also felt a momentary twinge of melancholy within my small group of friends who attended.  Us ‘Valley Girls’ have been together for at least 10 years now. Some of us have been friends for even longer. Several of our kids are around the same age, so we have watched as each other’s families have grown up. The past six years or so have been ones of transition as our children are working their ways through college and start venturing into their careers.

While some of us already are blessed with a few grandchildren, the wedding this weekend seemed to mark the beginning of a shift into the next phase of our lives. As we watched all the young adults in their wedding attire, one of our group pondered out loud, “I wonder who’s next?”

These times I find to be bittersweet. So excited to watch our children grow up and start to build lives and families of their own. Mixed in with that excitement however, are wisps of sadness or perhaps it’s just longing for the days when our lives revolved around young children. Change is never without some sense of loss.

It is all a part of life, so we will persevere. In this phase of our lives there is also a new found freedom; to pursue new adventures, to get to know our children as friends and adults. There is always the prospect of grandchildren too. Life’s way of renewing itself.

One thought on “The Next Phase of Friendship

  1. I don’t know why but this is the first time I have read this. It seems to reach each and every one of us as parents. It makes us realized, with each tear there is a smile as our world goes by.

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